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Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Constant crisis?

I am surrounded by people who live in a constant crisis. Relationships crisis. Those bad husbands, partners, those bastards who love you when they are in bed with you but a minute later they do love their wives again. Those marriages "from crisis to crisis". The marriages kept only for the sake of the children and for a so called goodness of the family life. Hm, well, interesting point of view by the way, but for some couples it is a reason - the family is most important - they used to repeat. But what family? With a husband who doesn't talk to his wife? With a wife who has boyfriends? That searching for "Mr. Right" and the searching of course is pointless, cause there is no Mr. Right. Only Mr. Wrongs are in abundance. All in all there is a constant crisis in relationships and there are no good marriages - this is basically a message I get recently. But... me myself don't feel like that. I feel happy with my partner who is my husband and my friend and just a good guy. Not a perfect one but not a bastard. Simply a nice guy. Simply a nice marriage. And we don't live from crisis to crisis. I think we never had a real crisis. Although sometimes I called our worse days "crisis" for a sake of being understood by other women, who seem to like the word. And sometimes I feel silly not experiencing crisis so I started to use the word to be more like the others. Oh, that's stupid! I shouldn't do that, but I feel stupid being the only one who is happy with what she has. And you know, no one likes people who are happy when everyone else lives in a crisis. Oh, how stupidly it sounds!!!! But now I think maybe it is something wrong with me? Am I normal? Maybe I have too low expectations and that's why I see my relation as such a good one? Maybe I am stupid? Blind? Deaf? Is it possible that my marriage is just fine? And that I am just satisfied being with the guy I chose for my husband? And that I don't look for another guy and I even don't have such thoughts? That's food for thought. Have a nice day!

2 comments:

  1. Maybe that's because when you started to date your husband you've already been self-conscious women, who had time to experiment with life, who discovered what she needs, wants/ doesn't want. I remember you were looking forward to settle down, stop being a crazy single;) I think now more than any earlier that marriage is for grown ups, not for those who are still searching they way, who are struggling with themselves. My two close friends are in serious marriage crises and we all agree on what I just wrote above.

    I am really happy that you are so satisfied with your family life. I keep my fingers crossed so it lasted as long as possible. And I don'd think there is anything wrong with you - in opposite you are giving me back hope that there are marriages just happy, that it is possible.

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  2. Thanks Ula for your comment. How true it is what you said. I hope I am mature enough and my husband too. And I hope we will enjoy being together as long as possible. And I also hope that we will learn our lessons from other couples and won't turn our life into a torture :)

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